For Brothers, Sisters and Close Family Members

Hi! Welcome to the Connected Kansas Kids Web site! We are glad you came for a visit. You may have recently learned that your brother or sister has a chronic illness, or maybe your brother or sister has had a chronic illness for a long time.

There are many different kinds of chronic illnesses. Some of them are cancer, cystic fibrosis, asthma, juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, lupus and many more. Even though there are many chronic illnesses that your brother or sister might have, there are some things that siblings of kids with chronic illnesses have in common. Lots of siblings of kids with chronic illness tell us that there are both good things and difficult things about being the sibling of a kid who is sick a lot.

Feelings

It is OK to feel sad sometimes.

Some kids feel angry, others feel sad. Some kids feel like it is their fault that their brother or sister is sick. Still others feel jealous of all the attention that their sibling gets because of the illness. All of these feelings are very normal. Your parents expect you to have a lot of different feelings when someone in your family has a chronic illness.

The important thing is that you find an adult with whom you can discuss your feelings. It might be your parents, grandparents, a neighbor or a teacher with whom you feel comfortable discussing your feelings.

You are important, too

You are a very important person and you need to take care of yourself. Part of taking care of yourself is talking to someone about how you feel and what you need. Your family needs you to open up to someone and discuss your feelings.

This site is also for you! You will find information for young children and teenagers packed with lots of interesting things. Have fun looking around and learning more about chronic illnesses. Please write to us and let us know what we can do to improve this site.