Parent Skill #11 — Accepting help graciously

Doing housework. When your child is diagnosed with a chronic illness, there are hundreds of things to do. Some of them you must do yourself; others can be done by caring relative and friends. In the beginning, you may try to do everything yourself, feeling that it is what you should do or not wanting to bother others.

However, you must remember to take care of yourself so you will be able to continue to take care of your family. When others ask how they can help, they are offering a valuable service. Allowing them to support you and your family will strengthen bonds and solidify your circle of support. If you do not accept offers to help, they will eventually quit coming. And, it is almost unkind to not let those who care about you the opportunity to support you and your family.

Everyone chips in to help. Of course, have others help in a way that decreases your stress and will allow you some time to relax. It may be helpful to keep a list of things that need to be done, allowing those who offer help to choose from the list. The list might include such things as picking up dry cleaning, grocery shopping, vacuuming the house, doing laundry, picking up stamps, watching other children, watering outdoor plants or mowing the lawn.

Allow people to help. Not only will you feel better knowing your chores have been reduced, but family members and friends will feel better knowing they are helping you!

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